Because of the high standards of the matches that eharmony.com finds you, you may not have nearly as many matches as you might on some other online dating sites.  However, eharmony.com claims that since the criteria is “extremely strict” (in the site’s own words), you are much more likely to find the right person, even if you have less possible leads to start from.

The afore-mentioned survey is quite lengthy, as it can take about 20 minutes, depending on how much you have to think about certain questions.  Questions begin with simple things, such as your sex, birthdate, and how important certain features are to you in a possible match.  Soon thereafter, you answer personality statements and indicate which describe you, such as “I do things according to plan”, or “I often carry the conversation to a higher level”.  You also select which words (for example, “quarrelsome”, “dominant”, “clever” or “stable”) fit you best, and how your friends would describe you.  There are some interesting true or false questions that range from the expected (“I enjoy many different activities”) to the strange (“I always read ALL of the warning literature on side effects before taking medication”).

Of course, while the survey is lengthy, that is the strength of eharmony.com, and the reason why the site can provide you with such great matches.  Also, the in-depth questionnaires help ensure that only sincere singles who match your personality are matched to you.  Once you’re hooked up with matches, what you do is up to you.  You can set who you’d like to have see your photo, and anonymously communicate until you’re ready to reveal yourself to the other person.

Trial members can send a few canned messages (“winks”), but only subscribers can view member’s photos.  Furthermore, you can rate the matches that eharmony.com has found you so far, so that they can use that feedback to find you more appropriate matches in the future.

Eharmony.com takes privacy and safety very seriously.  You can request open communication with the other person, but they have to approve for it to begin.  Otherwise, there’s a process that begins with asking each other questions and getting to know each other at a gradual pace.  Finally, you can even do secure phone calls for a small fee, which allow you to talk to the other person without revealing your phone number.  You can block other members from calling you easily, so there’s no risk involved.

If you do decide to “fast track” your conversations, you can begin sending them messages right away.  However, you will have to subscribe before you actually can write your own messages to other members.  Luckily, you can use guided communication to ensure that you’re compatible with someone before paying for a membership.  Either way, eharmony.com provides you with many options, and is a good place to go if you’re looking for a relationship that can last.

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